On my own journey of self-love I have been on both ends of the spectrum of self-value, and what was clearly evident in the contrast was the direct correlation in how others treated me was at the same standard I had subconsciously set in how I viewed and treated myself.
At a time in my life where I saw myself beneath others, insecure in my appearance, doubtful of any potential I may have had and in desperation to be liked and loved looked a lot like this..
■ Letting others walk over me.
■ People pleasing in the hope others would like me.
■ Attracting, dating and forgiving cheaters.
■ Letting others mock me and talk me down because I didn’t believe otherwise anyway.
■ Being lead by others because I believed at the time they knew what was better for me.
■ Aspiring to be other people because I didn’t see myself as anyone worthy.
Since then a slow growing unhappiness had festered within bursting at the seams of what had become a false bodysuit of a person I unknowingly had my external world create for me. I was forced to make changes in my life if I wanted to live out the rest of my life with any type of fulfillment and happiness.
What that personal change involved heavily relied on self-awareness, deep inner-working to shift the negative self-beliefs created thus far as well as learning to wholeheartedly love, accept and believe in myself. What I have observed in my current surroundings compared to my past now looks a lot different…
♡ Life changes that align with me not that of significant others or society.
♡ The attraction of supportive, healthy friendships and connections.
♡ Easy detection and eradication of toxic connections and environmental situations.
♡ The attraction of quality, honest men respecting me and my boundaries.
♡ Kindness and love from others even if in their briefest interactions.
♡ Freedom to be me, carefree.
♡ The ability to see opportunities and pursue passions and interests.
♡ A self-found independence in its fiercest form.
It’s with this I can assure you that evaluating how you see yourself today and assessing the reality of your current self-thoughts and beliefs will potentially position you to gift yourself the best thing you possibly can. The gift to free yourself from everything that isn’t true to you, filling that space with self-love and value that spills out to the world only to return back to you two-fold.