Your attempt to heal and open the heart of another who is incapable of loving you in the nurturing way your heart deserves will eventually show you how
to love yourself. The incapability of love that one withholds is by no means a negative representation of them as a person nor is this message directed to personally attack those of subject. The reality is that we all experience life in unique ways that corresponds to the way we perceive, respond, believe and express ourselves in the world. Therefore, one’s inability to express love is an extrapolation of their own set of past experiences or beliefs which is the best way they can be in life at this stage in their life at the level of awareness and growth thus far in their personal journey.
The connections in our lives are generally a reflection of our state of being and we continue to encounter different connections at different stages in life that all serve a purpose in our own personal evolution should we see it that way.
In a connection where there is an imbalance in emotional security, trust, respect and love there is going to be expression, silence or conflict in the hope of adjusting and correcting the needs of each party which is sometimes successful in resolving certain matters. However, there are circumstances where all methods are exhausted and you’re left with settling and motivated to ‘fix’ the other when you’ve grown unhappy yourself is in the hope it heals and leads them to the desired outcome of a happy balanced relationship. You can display love and affection, express and expect reciprocation and find yourself consistently blocked and present ourselves as a vice for someone else to project their issues on. Ultimately, you can give and give until you’re empty, but understand you’re fighting a
battle you will never win. It is until and it will eventuate at some point for you is when your self-value is in question to you. We all understand that it is incredibly hurtful to feel unloved/unwanted in any sense but in that discomfort lies the realisation that in
all of its sadness, the responsibility to open a heart, to give and receive love relies solely on the one whom is unable to love, whether or not
they choose to partake in the self-work required to experience a level emotional fulfillment in their lives is completely up to them, not you.
The point to which this awareness is developed on your part is where a lesson of self-love or lack of is taught and propositioned for action which some of us choose to ignore and find ourselves looping around the same cycles or in the same relationship dynamics until we’re ready to understand the full teaching of what is being presented and honour ourselves. Where your self-value is compromising your peace and happiness is where you need to let go of what you can not control with love, understanding and compassion for all parties involved, meaning you too. This dejection not only gives you the opportunity to open yourself to receiving what you do deserve but also gives the other person an opportunity to confront the roots of their own unhappiness.
One of the most courageous decisions you’ll ever make is to finally let go of what is hurting your heart and soul
Our happiness and self-work is our own responsibility, when we seek it out in others or try it will never be found, happiness starts with ourselves and the actions and steps we take should always be motivated by that.
Love, Glenda xx